Husbands, Wives and Sex
How one partner alone can change the dynamics to renew sex, romance and intimacy
by Doris Wild Helmering

HOW YOUR MATE'S PERSONALITY AFFECTS YOUR SEX LIFE (Excerpt from Chapter One)

"We feel like everyone else in America has more sex than we have," says thirty-five-year-old Lisa. "We might have sex once a month, but sometimes we don't have sex for six or seven weeks. If we haven't had sex in a long time, there is an awkwardness there, like, what should we do first?"

"We have sex about every three weeks," says Anne, "although we may not have sex for six weeks at a time. I think it's because I'm always angry at Tom. Tom always does what he damn well pleases."  "Sex," says George. "It's not a high priority with me, and Toni is pretty shy about sex. Actually, we're both kind of shy. Neither of us talks about it. If we do talk about it, it is in the context of her criticizing me for not being more sexually active."

In this book you will read intimate interviews, in which men and women tell about their sex lives. You will learn how often they make love, who does the approaching, and how the issue of power is connected to who initiates sex and who refuses it. You will learn in what ways men and women think differently about marriage, and why they often feel misunderstood and dissatisfied with each other. Most important, you will come to see that men and women have very different personality types, and that this dramatically affects their sex lives.

You will take four short tests that will help determine your own personality type and the personality type of your mate. As you take these tests, you will begin to see more clearly how your personality and that of your mate affects your sex life. And you will come to understand that infrequent sex is almost always the result of an underlying unhappiness with one's mate that begins outside the bedroom.

Praise for Husbands, Wives & Sex

“This book holds the key to moving your sexual relationship from ‘good’ to ‘great.” Whoever you are, whatever the condition of your sex life, this book has something of value in one or more of its case histories, something that will seem to be speaking directly to you and your significant other… It offers a win-win path to a happy, mutually satisfying sexual relationship.”
---William Smart, The Washington Post

“Doris Wild Helmering’s book is on target and straight as an arrow. Nobody can quarrel seriously with her contention that while both partners contribute to the problems, one partner, alone, can be effective in breaking the logjam and beginning the process of resolution. On top of that, the book is a good read, holding our attention as it broadens our horizons.”
---Darrell Sifford, Philadelphia Inquirer

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